The language of love
I think a lot about love - as I've gone through it's stages...and even whether I am in involved 'it' or not...
I wonder what happens to us....
After that first blush of love...when do the fires fade? What causes you to go from zero to 60 in no time and then suddenly put the breaks on or slow down to an almost imperceptible movement....
We strive to make that 'first' impression the BEST impression. At first, we do the little 'nothings', we call each other a lot, we do the (21st century thing) e-mails, love letters, little gifts, gestures, words...then just as suddenly as it begins it stops/slows or, perhaps if you are lucky, it never stops...the romance keeps growing.
Sometimes it's replaced by spending time together, going places together, perhaps something even more permanent...
But what about when it just wilts on the vine? Or one partner seems to still be in the 'throes' of it and the other one is blase?
How do you know when it's time to stop? Not just when you are first dating and decide OK this just isn't working - but what about being in a relationship for a while, years even....when do you decide - this just isn't working anymore? What are the signs, symptoms, the death knell? Do we always hear it or do we often ignore such things?
How much of it has to do with perception? With man vs woman, sun-sign vs sun-sign, temperament vs temperament..and do we try to change ourselves or them? Do we even want to - or is that the problem - we're just all either too fucking lazy, or too fucking busy
I wonder what happens to us....
After that first blush of love...when do the fires fade? What causes you to go from zero to 60 in no time and then suddenly put the breaks on or slow down to an almost imperceptible movement....
We strive to make that 'first' impression the BEST impression. At first, we do the little 'nothings', we call each other a lot, we do the (21st century thing) e-mails, love letters, little gifts, gestures, words...then just as suddenly as it begins it stops/slows or, perhaps if you are lucky, it never stops...the romance keeps growing.
Sometimes it's replaced by spending time together, going places together, perhaps something even more permanent...
But what about when it just wilts on the vine? Or one partner seems to still be in the 'throes' of it and the other one is blase?
How do you know when it's time to stop? Not just when you are first dating and decide OK this just isn't working - but what about being in a relationship for a while, years even....when do you decide - this just isn't working anymore? What are the signs, symptoms, the death knell? Do we always hear it or do we often ignore such things?
How much of it has to do with perception? With man vs woman, sun-sign vs sun-sign, temperament vs temperament..and do we try to change ourselves or them? Do we even want to - or is that the problem - we're just all either too fucking lazy, or too fucking busy
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