We can be heroes...just for one day...
To each other – to people we don’t even know.
“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world…”
- - Anonymous
Yesterday, I was given the opportunity to go hear one of my heroes, Dr Dean Ornish give a talk. I have admired his work for a very long time and I was thrilled to hear him speak. He gave us all food for thought (no pun intended) – he is engaging, intelligent, humorous, and inspirational.
One of my ‘other’ heroes is my boyfriend. I admire him. Not just because I love him. But ‘because’ as in all the reasons I listed in that post ‘Because’...
This relationship has become very important to me – and it’s not that my past relationships weren’t important – it’s that in this one I see all the potential that did not seem to even exist in the others. This is not the first blush of love talking either. We’ve hit rough waters already and we are still afloat. Even though to me it was frightening to think that we had come to a point that might have ended the relationship, even then, there was no screaming or arguing – no voices were raised, no one slammed doors. I believe we were both a bit upset – but true anger did not seem to surface – intense irritation, frustration, yeah that was there. We rose above it – we found solid ground again. I am not sure if we are the same, I am hoping we are better, in many ways, I feel we are better…well I am hoping so at least.
I refuse to be guided by fear. In the past, my dating ‘adventures’ were so pathetic so lackluster, such a waste of time. I’d get to a point where I just wanted to scream (or kill someone – preferably my date). People expecting too much too soon (we are talking second or third dates here – one guy took me home to meet his twin daughters, his son AND his live-in mother on the third date!!!). No one seemed to think becoming good friends let alone really getting to KNOW one another was important at all – let alone necessary.
So my tolerance for people and for dating in general was not very high. The minute I sensed trouble I’d begin to waffle/plan my escape. The difference here is that he has so much to offer in the way of being ‘real’, honest, and substantive – I keep ‘discovering’ more about him and I still want to know more. He is never boring. Over and over we connect. I like the person *I* am when I am with him – the qualities he brings out in me. He is kind yet strong – he is not overbearing. He is patient and introspective. He is truly one of the good guys and I managed to luck out and capture his heart. Wow.
We just passed the 4 month mark in this relationship. I don’t know where we are going all I know is that I want him by my side.
“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world…”
- - Anonymous
Yesterday, I was given the opportunity to go hear one of my heroes, Dr Dean Ornish give a talk. I have admired his work for a very long time and I was thrilled to hear him speak. He gave us all food for thought (no pun intended) – he is engaging, intelligent, humorous, and inspirational.
One of my ‘other’ heroes is my boyfriend. I admire him. Not just because I love him. But ‘because’ as in all the reasons I listed in that post ‘Because’...
This relationship has become very important to me – and it’s not that my past relationships weren’t important – it’s that in this one I see all the potential that did not seem to even exist in the others. This is not the first blush of love talking either. We’ve hit rough waters already and we are still afloat. Even though to me it was frightening to think that we had come to a point that might have ended the relationship, even then, there was no screaming or arguing – no voices were raised, no one slammed doors. I believe we were both a bit upset – but true anger did not seem to surface – intense irritation, frustration, yeah that was there. We rose above it – we found solid ground again. I am not sure if we are the same, I am hoping we are better, in many ways, I feel we are better…well I am hoping so at least.
I refuse to be guided by fear. In the past, my dating ‘adventures’ were so pathetic so lackluster, such a waste of time. I’d get to a point where I just wanted to scream (or kill someone – preferably my date). People expecting too much too soon (we are talking second or third dates here – one guy took me home to meet his twin daughters, his son AND his live-in mother on the third date!!!). No one seemed to think becoming good friends let alone really getting to KNOW one another was important at all – let alone necessary.
So my tolerance for people and for dating in general was not very high. The minute I sensed trouble I’d begin to waffle/plan my escape. The difference here is that he has so much to offer in the way of being ‘real’, honest, and substantive – I keep ‘discovering’ more about him and I still want to know more. He is never boring. Over and over we connect. I like the person *I* am when I am with him – the qualities he brings out in me. He is kind yet strong – he is not overbearing. He is patient and introspective. He is truly one of the good guys and I managed to luck out and capture his heart. Wow.
We just passed the 4 month mark in this relationship. I don’t know where we are going all I know is that I want him by my side.
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