'The struggle for the legal tender...'
“Caught between the longing for love,
And the struggle for the legal tender”
-- (Lyric from ‘The Pretender’ by Jackson Browne)
The meaning of the above-mentioned lyric is probably different for every person involved in a serious relationship….
How do you define ‘serious’ when do you cross that boundary between we are ‘dating’ and we are ‘in love’ – when is it time to say this is ‘forever’
I have become frustrated (understatement here), waiting for Erin’s annulment to come through. I/We can’t really make any wedding plans until that is completed.
Yesterday, Erin got a letter from ‘The Tribunal’ (it sounds like we are on a TV show) basically saying that the annulment was ‘approved’ and that he (and the other party involved – his ex), had 15 days from the date of the letter to ask to see a copy of the documents. After this time has passed the ‘judgment’ had to go on to still another committee/panel to be reviewed for final approval – the time this could take for the case to be heard is another 6 months. Basically, we are granting you the annulment – but you still have to wait (bastards!).
Geez...
Does their final 'OK your 1st marriage wasn't ‘valid’' matter? No, not really – but it matters in terms of us being able to get married in our church. Does getting married in a church matter? Um…on one level it’s extremely important to me/to us….on another I am getting to the point where I could care less.
Erin and I are madly, (hopelessly) in love. Sure like any other couple, we have our problems, our struggles….but we are incredibly compatible with each other and other than the aforementioned ‘issues’ which are being worked out – we are incredibly happy together (STILL!). I just want to be able to plan my wedding – not because it’s going to be the gala of the year, or even all that big of an event. But I WANT to set a date, I WANT be able to go dress shopping, I WANT to be able to plan our reception/party – I mean it’s not that we haven’t talked, come to decision etc. It’s that we can’t get a ‘venue’ – I don’t know if I need a dress for the spring, summer, fall….heck winter. I don’t want to put money down on things if I don’t know what’s going on….
I comfort myself by saying we know our guest list, we know what KIND of reception we want to have, but I can’t very well have a summer on the beach sort of picnic in the winter….I mean I guess we can indoors….
I am not trying to complain – it’s just frustrating….very, very frustrating.
And the struggle for the legal tender”
-- (Lyric from ‘The Pretender’ by Jackson Browne)
The meaning of the above-mentioned lyric is probably different for every person involved in a serious relationship….
How do you define ‘serious’ when do you cross that boundary between we are ‘dating’ and we are ‘in love’ – when is it time to say this is ‘forever’
I have become frustrated (understatement here), waiting for Erin’s annulment to come through. I/We can’t really make any wedding plans until that is completed.
Yesterday, Erin got a letter from ‘The Tribunal’ (it sounds like we are on a TV show) basically saying that the annulment was ‘approved’ and that he (and the other party involved – his ex), had 15 days from the date of the letter to ask to see a copy of the documents. After this time has passed the ‘judgment’ had to go on to still another committee/panel to be reviewed for final approval – the time this could take for the case to be heard is another 6 months. Basically, we are granting you the annulment – but you still have to wait (bastards!).
Geez...
Does their final 'OK your 1st marriage wasn't ‘valid’' matter? No, not really – but it matters in terms of us being able to get married in our church. Does getting married in a church matter? Um…on one level it’s extremely important to me/to us….on another I am getting to the point where I could care less.
Erin and I are madly, (hopelessly) in love. Sure like any other couple, we have our problems, our struggles….but we are incredibly compatible with each other and other than the aforementioned ‘issues’ which are being worked out – we are incredibly happy together (STILL!). I just want to be able to plan my wedding – not because it’s going to be the gala of the year, or even all that big of an event. But I WANT to set a date, I WANT be able to go dress shopping, I WANT to be able to plan our reception/party – I mean it’s not that we haven’t talked, come to decision etc. It’s that we can’t get a ‘venue’ – I don’t know if I need a dress for the spring, summer, fall….heck winter. I don’t want to put money down on things if I don’t know what’s going on….
I comfort myself by saying we know our guest list, we know what KIND of reception we want to have, but I can’t very well have a summer on the beach sort of picnic in the winter….I mean I guess we can indoors….
I am not trying to complain – it’s just frustrating….very, very frustrating.
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