Being a dangerous woman...
is indeed an art. I have always felt myself to be a bit dangerous. Why? Because I open my mouth. Becuase I can be aggressive, confrontational (NO! you might gasp *wink*) - it's sad but true...
People are either put off by it or they accept me for who *I* REALLY am. I don't care too much either way - I am me. I am not in the habit of changing THESE types of things.
There are 'other' people in the world like me who apparently feel it is somehow on their agenda to 'raise some hell'. However with blogging being a relatively new form of expression I guess I never felt it was OK to 'target' other people's blogs. I would never think of doing such a thing. I love writing - this has been such an
freeing experience for me. This has been the start of something for me - something I never felt was 'in me'. But other than what I put down here (which again, I am absolutely amazed anyone ever reads); I don't have time to go to other people's blogs to find some sort of fault with that person's point of view and to then loudly take them to task for it on their blog - not only do I not have the time, I don't care. The only blogs I like to read are those I like, not those that I think are done by blow-hards or people I don't agree with. Life is too short.
There is a delicate balance of reason I try to sustain - all to often when I find myself outraged it escapes me - I don't bottle it up - but I also find I let out the 'Genie' too often.
What irriates me most is people who by their very nature, exhibit passive-aggression, they seek out blogs, they make disparaging comments and then when they get the rise they want out of you, off they go (secretly I wonder if they are being paid to do this). I also often wonder what type of childhoods these people had. They become indignant and self-righteous when the perosn they attack defends their position, they hide behind conservative mores and values and the 'God is right' (no pun intended) agendas. They seem to be so 'indoctrinated' and politically motivated, they feel it is their duty to do such things. These very same types (not all mind you - but many) will chase science out of our classrooms in favour of teaching 'creationism'; they think it's a sin that we don't pray in schools anymore, they will fly a 'Confederate' flag as a way to demonstrate their love for long-forgotten 'manners' and a history that in my eyes is still reeling from lynchings and segregation. Sort of the way the KKK claims they have their rights to speak the way they do. And yes, these people (even the KKK) have these rights. They do indeed...however, Dr. King died for a just cause and yet I have to ask myself if his death served any purpose when I still see certain people at the 'helm' of this country. People who advocate going to war as a way to solve the worlds' issues, turn their collective noses up at the great peace-makers like Ghandi and say things like we can't put these theories to work nowadays because we (America) has to fight for 'Truth, Justice , and the American Way' . (sorry if I offended any comic-book people out there - this is not meant to). (And by the way - some of those same people would be happy to 'ban' 'subversive' materials - like comic books, Harry Potter etc.).
All the while, a lot of those people claim to be 'good Christians' (someone should clue them in that Jesus would be ashamed by their behaviour). It's like their prostelytizing (but instead they use it as a weapon - i.e. have you ever had someone 'pray' for you and wish secretly that they hadn't, because it feels...well out-and-out-creepy???)
For some reason this all seems to be tearing this country apart and perhaps that's because those of us on the other side won't back down and follow along. And perhaps that makes 'us' (people like moi), 'bad people' - but I don't think so. You can go ahead and keep your ideals and are welcome to them - really. But I personally think the rest of the planet would like to move on to a more globally-accepted and 'true' peace-keeping effort and not the blatant over-running of other countries with the US' 'version of 'democracy' especially when the US seems to have so many problems it can't seem to solve and so much of this very country does not feel that this TYPE of democracy is working very well.
It's going to be a very long four years, isn't it?
***********************
You know I lived in the south (in Texas to be precise) for 8 long years. I was not liked by the locals down there (gee I wonder why?). Part of it was because they were still a bit peeved with us Yankees for winning the Civil War - and we were very much percieved as 'Yankee' who came down there and 'stole their jobs'. They also seemed to expect their women to be a bit more sedate, more 'Southern-Bell-esq' - *laughs* - I actually ran into one woman who was taking classes on being more 'submissive' to her man - at, of all places a Southern Baptist University. When she brought this up at a mixed gathering of women (a lot of us were from the North) - we were speechless. Literally.
So when I talk about being a 'dangeorus woman' this is part of what I mean. I AM a lot of the things that a lot of people don't like. And that is part of being me. I have always been outspoken, intelligent, passionate, and not very good at tolerating fools. It's just me being...um me. So my dear friend Max - this is for you. Feminism is NOT dead in MY heart and mind and, I hope and pray it's not completely dead in this country - I just think we are re-working it. I consider myself to be very feminine - I am not a Nazi about it - I am strong, I do roar - I guess the question is whether anyone is actually hearing me or ANY of us out there who won't back down.
People are either put off by it or they accept me for who *I* REALLY am. I don't care too much either way - I am me. I am not in the habit of changing THESE types of things.
There are 'other' people in the world like me who apparently feel it is somehow on their agenda to 'raise some hell'. However with blogging being a relatively new form of expression I guess I never felt it was OK to 'target' other people's blogs. I would never think of doing such a thing. I love writing - this has been such an
freeing experience for me. This has been the start of something for me - something I never felt was 'in me'. But other than what I put down here (which again, I am absolutely amazed anyone ever reads); I don't have time to go to other people's blogs to find some sort of fault with that person's point of view and to then loudly take them to task for it on their blog - not only do I not have the time, I don't care. The only blogs I like to read are those I like, not those that I think are done by blow-hards or people I don't agree with. Life is too short.
There is a delicate balance of reason I try to sustain - all to often when I find myself outraged it escapes me - I don't bottle it up - but I also find I let out the 'Genie' too often.
What irriates me most is people who by their very nature, exhibit passive-aggression, they seek out blogs, they make disparaging comments and then when they get the rise they want out of you, off they go (secretly I wonder if they are being paid to do this). I also often wonder what type of childhoods these people had. They become indignant and self-righteous when the perosn they attack defends their position, they hide behind conservative mores and values and the 'God is right' (no pun intended) agendas. They seem to be so 'indoctrinated' and politically motivated, they feel it is their duty to do such things. These very same types (not all mind you - but many) will chase science out of our classrooms in favour of teaching 'creationism'; they think it's a sin that we don't pray in schools anymore, they will fly a 'Confederate' flag as a way to demonstrate their love for long-forgotten 'manners' and a history that in my eyes is still reeling from lynchings and segregation. Sort of the way the KKK claims they have their rights to speak the way they do. And yes, these people (even the KKK) have these rights. They do indeed...however, Dr. King died for a just cause and yet I have to ask myself if his death served any purpose when I still see certain people at the 'helm' of this country. People who advocate going to war as a way to solve the worlds' issues, turn their collective noses up at the great peace-makers like Ghandi and say things like we can't put these theories to work nowadays because we (America) has to fight for 'Truth, Justice , and the American Way' . (sorry if I offended any comic-book people out there - this is not meant to). (And by the way - some of those same people would be happy to 'ban' 'subversive' materials - like comic books, Harry Potter etc.).
All the while, a lot of those people claim to be 'good Christians' (someone should clue them in that Jesus would be ashamed by their behaviour). It's like their prostelytizing (but instead they use it as a weapon - i.e. have you ever had someone 'pray' for you and wish secretly that they hadn't, because it feels...well out-and-out-creepy???)
For some reason this all seems to be tearing this country apart and perhaps that's because those of us on the other side won't back down and follow along. And perhaps that makes 'us' (people like moi), 'bad people' - but I don't think so. You can go ahead and keep your ideals and are welcome to them - really. But I personally think the rest of the planet would like to move on to a more globally-accepted and 'true' peace-keeping effort and not the blatant over-running of other countries with the US' 'version of 'democracy' especially when the US seems to have so many problems it can't seem to solve and so much of this very country does not feel that this TYPE of democracy is working very well.
It's going to be a very long four years, isn't it?
***********************
You know I lived in the south (in Texas to be precise) for 8 long years. I was not liked by the locals down there (gee I wonder why?). Part of it was because they were still a bit peeved with us Yankees for winning the Civil War - and we were very much percieved as 'Yankee' who came down there and 'stole their jobs'. They also seemed to expect their women to be a bit more sedate, more 'Southern-Bell-esq' - *laughs* - I actually ran into one woman who was taking classes on being more 'submissive' to her man - at, of all places a Southern Baptist University. When she brought this up at a mixed gathering of women (a lot of us were from the North) - we were speechless. Literally.
So when I talk about being a 'dangeorus woman' this is part of what I mean. I AM a lot of the things that a lot of people don't like. And that is part of being me. I have always been outspoken, intelligent, passionate, and not very good at tolerating fools. It's just me being...um me. So my dear friend Max - this is for you. Feminism is NOT dead in MY heart and mind and, I hope and pray it's not completely dead in this country - I just think we are re-working it. I consider myself to be very feminine - I am not a Nazi about it - I am strong, I do roar - I guess the question is whether anyone is actually hearing me or ANY of us out there who won't back down.
posted by Colette at 7:32 PM
1 Comments:
All we can do is to continue to be ourselves. We can't force anyone to hear us even when we roar. I think that perhaps, some do. I also believe that some hear us even when we whisper. It saddens me to hear that there are women out there actively trying to be submissive to their husbands. Future battered wives I suspect. As for me, the words never spring to mind.
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