A love as deep as the ocean
Funny….
I used to think of love as something that operated best based on a scarcity model...
The less you saw of each other – the more you seemed to want each other – although at the beginning you 'seem' to want to be together ALL the time...and yet, for most of us, that’s a really dangerous thing to do.
Dance along the edge...
So most of us don’t have the common sense and/or brains the good Lord gave us to us for such matters of great importance.
We fall in love, everything is shiny and new….we pursue our love with passion and excitement and then, slowly, things seem to fade, the colours aren’t as bright anymore…doldrums begin to set in or we get bored, distracted, antsy...
When I first began this relationship one of the best aspects was that we were ‘careful’ with each other – sure we WANTED to be together but there were some actual/natural barriers to our spending every waking moment together. Mainly our busy lives and being cognizant of E’s kids...
We are still busy in our lives. We still try to be cognizant of each other’s schedules and needs for ‘space’ – we don’t want to be ‘joined at the hip’ nor do I think that will ever be a problem for us...
Yet there is no one I’d rather spend my free time with.
Do I worry about things getting ‘old’ or us getting complacent? Sure, I want to keep the homes fires burning. But either one of us getting complacent? Ain’t gonna happen – not with Erin and I – both of us have had plenty of that in our lives and we won’t just hold on for the sake of holding on...
There is something about this love of ours that does not mirror any other love I have ever experienced – we keep ‘rediscovering’ each other and ‘reconnecting’ and yet still there is more to learn – like the depths of the ocean, I keep finding treasures as I explore.
I used to think of love as something that operated best based on a scarcity model...
The less you saw of each other – the more you seemed to want each other – although at the beginning you 'seem' to want to be together ALL the time...and yet, for most of us, that’s a really dangerous thing to do.
Dance along the edge...
So most of us don’t have the common sense and/or brains the good Lord gave us to us for such matters of great importance.
We fall in love, everything is shiny and new….we pursue our love with passion and excitement and then, slowly, things seem to fade, the colours aren’t as bright anymore…doldrums begin to set in or we get bored, distracted, antsy...
When I first began this relationship one of the best aspects was that we were ‘careful’ with each other – sure we WANTED to be together but there were some actual/natural barriers to our spending every waking moment together. Mainly our busy lives and being cognizant of E’s kids...
We are still busy in our lives. We still try to be cognizant of each other’s schedules and needs for ‘space’ – we don’t want to be ‘joined at the hip’ nor do I think that will ever be a problem for us...
Yet there is no one I’d rather spend my free time with.
Do I worry about things getting ‘old’ or us getting complacent? Sure, I want to keep the homes fires burning. But either one of us getting complacent? Ain’t gonna happen – not with Erin and I – both of us have had plenty of that in our lives and we won’t just hold on for the sake of holding on...
There is something about this love of ours that does not mirror any other love I have ever experienced – we keep ‘rediscovering’ each other and ‘reconnecting’ and yet still there is more to learn – like the depths of the ocean, I keep finding treasures as I explore.
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