The two passive-aggressive sisters
Once upon a time, dearest Colette was blessed with not one, but two passive-aggressive sisters.
They both felt as if they had to control every single aspect of every single event in their families' lives. They both would say things like 'it's OK, anything you want to do is fine' but in the end the HAD to control the 'anything' and were never satisfied with the outcome unless they did so. This was not only true of their family events, but their family members as well.
Sister #1, the blood sister, also has a nasty habit of 'friending ' Colette's friends (whether she knows them or not, whether she is actually friends with them or not), reminding Colette of all the times she was forced to drag this sister along to play with her friends (because apparently the little sister could not easily make friends or some such shit made up by mother). Sister #1 is also known for making ever-so-lovely comments so that everyone will think that she is just full of love, and fun, and kind words for everyone - except she does not realize that the gossip she is forever spewing and has likewise instilled into her daughter is not only a 'sin' (because this sister is also so very devout in her religious following), but it is toxic and hateful.
Sister-removed, for she is not Colette's sister, has her own hateful practices in that she refuses to let blood sister know about any family gatherings or invite her to any which puts Colette in a very precarious position, that Colette is beginning to tire of, not to mention the above-referenced control-freak issues as well as the whole 'cruise-director' mentality that has to plan everything according to her needs. When repeatedly asked by Colette if she and her husband, Colette's brother, will join in an evening (or anytime) get together, Sister-removed is always 'too busy' or never responds.
Colette is really not trying to be mean and nasty herself, but has found a couple of things to be true.
1. Life is too short for this shit, and
2. Family is voluntary
Therefore, as of 2017, Colette is going to do her utmost best - other than perhaps trying to make peace and see those in her next of kin category that she actually cares for, namely her brothers and nieces and nephew - to completely avoid the passive-aggressive BS put forth by these otherwise lovely (one supposes), individuals.
Onward and upward mes amis.
They both felt as if they had to control every single aspect of every single event in their families' lives. They both would say things like 'it's OK, anything you want to do is fine' but in the end the HAD to control the 'anything' and were never satisfied with the outcome unless they did so. This was not only true of their family events, but their family members as well.
Sister #1, the blood sister, also has a nasty habit of 'friending ' Colette's friends (whether she knows them or not, whether she is actually friends with them or not), reminding Colette of all the times she was forced to drag this sister along to play with her friends (because apparently the little sister could not easily make friends or some such shit made up by mother). Sister #1 is also known for making ever-so-lovely comments so that everyone will think that she is just full of love, and fun, and kind words for everyone - except she does not realize that the gossip she is forever spewing and has likewise instilled into her daughter is not only a 'sin' (because this sister is also so very devout in her religious following), but it is toxic and hateful.
Sister-removed, for she is not Colette's sister, has her own hateful practices in that she refuses to let blood sister know about any family gatherings or invite her to any which puts Colette in a very precarious position, that Colette is beginning to tire of, not to mention the above-referenced control-freak issues as well as the whole 'cruise-director' mentality that has to plan everything according to her needs. When repeatedly asked by Colette if she and her husband, Colette's brother, will join in an evening (or anytime) get together, Sister-removed is always 'too busy' or never responds.
Colette is really not trying to be mean and nasty herself, but has found a couple of things to be true.
1. Life is too short for this shit, and
2. Family is voluntary
Therefore, as of 2017, Colette is going to do her utmost best - other than perhaps trying to make peace and see those in her next of kin category that she actually cares for, namely her brothers and nieces and nephew - to completely avoid the passive-aggressive BS put forth by these otherwise lovely (one supposes), individuals.
Onward and upward mes amis.
posted by Colette at 5:57 PM
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