MAKING MR. RIGHT
OK here’s (as broomhilda put it) my ‘laundry’ list *smile*
1. May he be ‘the one’ I am meant to be with
2. May he be honest (really, really honest)
3. May he be stable
4. May he be comfortable ‘in his own skin’
5. May he like me for who I am
6. May he be intelligent and not afraid of my intelligence
7. May he be kind
8. May he like children and animals (especially mine – and me like his)
9. May he be compassionate and tolerant
10. May he be spiritual
11. May he be willing to help out around the house
12. May he be into being healthy (in ALL aspects of his life)
13. May he be fun and enjoy laughter (and tears too sometimes)
14. May he like music, books, arts (you know CULTURE)
15. May he be somewhat good looking (does NOT have to be a stud)
For the BOTH of us in our relationship
1. May we be partners – standing by each others’ sides in all things
2. May we enjoy each others company
3. May we enjoy each other intimately
4. May we be able to let each other have the space we both need
5. May we be able to handle any baggage we bring to the relationship and deal with it so it does not hurt the relationship
6. May we recognize the fullness of the other’s humanity and be 2 whole people coming together NOT 2 half-people trying to make a whole person
7. May we respect each other – even when there are disagreements
8. May we be able to see the humour (get the ‘cosmic' joke)
9. May we be kind and loving to each other and know that foreplay begins way before the bedroom
10. May we bring out the best in each other
If any of you out there want to have something put on the list – feel free to let me know. This is the most basic stuff I could think of – but it’s the MOST important stuff to me.
1. May he be ‘the one’ I am meant to be with
2. May he be honest (really, really honest)
3. May he be stable
4. May he be comfortable ‘in his own skin’
5. May he like me for who I am
6. May he be intelligent and not afraid of my intelligence
7. May he be kind
8. May he like children and animals (especially mine – and me like his)
9. May he be compassionate and tolerant
10. May he be spiritual
11. May he be willing to help out around the house
12. May he be into being healthy (in ALL aspects of his life)
13. May he be fun and enjoy laughter (and tears too sometimes)
14. May he like music, books, arts (you know CULTURE)
15. May he be somewhat good looking (does NOT have to be a stud)
For the BOTH of us in our relationship
1. May we be partners – standing by each others’ sides in all things
2. May we enjoy each others company
3. May we enjoy each other intimately
4. May we be able to let each other have the space we both need
5. May we be able to handle any baggage we bring to the relationship and deal with it so it does not hurt the relationship
6. May we recognize the fullness of the other’s humanity and be 2 whole people coming together NOT 2 half-people trying to make a whole person
7. May we respect each other – even when there are disagreements
8. May we be able to see the humour (get the ‘cosmic' joke)
9. May we be kind and loving to each other and know that foreplay begins way before the bedroom
10. May we bring out the best in each other
If any of you out there want to have something put on the list – feel free to let me know. This is the most basic stuff I could think of – but it’s the MOST important stuff to me.
posted by Colette at 8:15 AM
6 Comments:
good list. :-)
Sweetie, I think you covered it. ;)
1. list> its more. it describes the perfect partner. l'homme OU la femme. but do such things exist (in one person) .. :o)
2. mask> i like the mask
May he not be afraid of your intelligence? hmmm. Shouldn't that be changed to arrogance?
Here is another suggestion: May you both share the same dreams.
Dear anonymous...
Once again out of the closet come the cowards....
Yeah that's it, it's my arrogance - that what my last husband hated so much...
I have had men unsettled by me=y being too smart - being bookish - it's a sad fact and it happens all the time. It's a nightmare.
I don't care if we share the same dreams - your dream is your dream (right?) or are you one of those people who's lover HAS to have the same dream as you to make your relationship valid?
I mean sure it can be nice but not an absolute. It's nice to walk along the same path - but if his dream is to be a fireman well that's not MY dream.
I don't dream anymore of owning a really nice home or having kids those are big dreams too - and I find they are more for the young - not people in my situation.
No I like my list just the way it is - I guess I should have asked for 'realistic' or 'constructive' things to add - not insults and 'dreamy' things'
But thanks ever so much for visiting - we love causing trouble on this blog.
^_^
Colette
Oh one more comment to add for anonymous...
How about if instead of calling it 'sharing the SAME dream' we call it 'supporting each other's dreams'?
For you see my ex gave me lip service - telling me he was supporting my dream of being a Yoga teacher - and he was all the while screwing an 18 year old (possibly countless others), cozying up to swingers and claiming to be bi-sexual (LOL - I am sure it was all my arrogance that drove him to that) - so I don't need someone to give lip service - just to REALLY support me - as I should support them in kind.
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