Why Do Men Spend So Much Time at Their Jobs?
Why Do Men Spend So Much Time at Their Jobs?
Hmmmm....interesting and thought provoking. In some cases it explains a lot about the dynamic of what happens to relationships as they progress....
Hmmmm....interesting and thought provoking. In some cases it explains a lot about the dynamic of what happens to relationships as they progress....
posted by Colette at 12:19 PM
4 Comments:
I think this guy is a dick and an idiot, and I'd like to hammer a nail into that dickhead since he mentioned it.
...but tell us what you really think....
*smirk*
Someone's comment to the article:
This should be a motivator for women to never let their men take them for granted. The downside of relationship "security" is complacency, and an assumption that the other person will always be there. This can lead to divorce faster than you can say "alimony." If you want to keep a partner, you have to always work to retain their love and respect. A partner you don't work to keep is either not worth your time, or is too good for you.
One of the big reasons I got divorced was lack of her chasing me. I was tired of chasing her - I wanted to be chased. I would break out the clothes she liked - she wouldn't reciprocate. I'd get her the gifts she wanted/talked about - she wouldn't reciprocate. I spent time with her doing what she wanted - she wouldn't reciprocate.
Some of the stuff I didn't want to wear/get/do, but it was worth it to me.
First of all - the street runs BOTH ways...for men AND for women.
And not to SOUND sexist but I find most men once the 'prize' is 'secured/won' slack off - they figure - hey I got the girl - why bother.
Women similarly end up sounding like they are nagging - don't know how to ask for things (like romance) and then in turn give up, get silent or worse, passive agressive and treat men like crap.
If you want someting to work you have to do just that - work - there is no resting on your laurels in love. Becuase you will lose your love.
Finally, while I believe love can be saved, rekindled etc., respect once lost (and trust), is extremely hard to regain.
I want someone who is not going to take me for granted - who is going to remember that I NEED the little romantic gestures and to be told (often) 'I love you'. I also want to be chased - Likewise, I feel I need to do the same thing - to be romantic, to be sexy, to be caring and concerned and to do the 'little things' he likes. In the end it all boils down to talking to each other and knowing we can't be mind readers to one another. But if we slack off, if we don't bother - then in essence why bother - what's the point.
Either the love/relationship/person is worth it to you or they aren't.
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