Sometimes it's the things you DON'T say...
I feel very remiss in NOT mentioning the disaster in Southeast Asia and surrounding areas. I mean it was so devastating. Again it is a tragedy, the scope of which can not be accurately conveyed in mere words. I think mostly I am just in shock and feel quite helpless in the face of so much loss.
Last night I was at a cocktail party given by my brother and sister-in-law. There were some nice people there, including a woman who is from Indonesia – of course everyone cornered her to ask her if her relatives were OK. Thankfully, she said she had not gotten any bad news.
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A decadent Yule
I was given some really lovely presents from my family/friends/ex this year (yes my ex gave me some gifts).
I received a gorgeous candle from a friend of mine (this was a very expensive candle – and she really shouldn’t have) – it is a Jeff Leatham Candle and the scent is called ‘Voodoo Rose’ it is absolutely exquisite.
My ex gave me 2 DVDs I wanted: Practical Magic and Edward Scissorshands and a book that was on my list “The Venetian’s Wife” by Nick Bantock, and my favourite perfume Anais, Anais – he was very thoughtful and kind in his gift giving.
My sister-in-law, (who had me for our family gift exchange) gave me a beautiful hand-made silk scarf, a paper doll cut out book featuring two angels and angel ‘garb’ down through the ages from early Christianity onwards – it’s a really cool gift. She also got me an angel bell (which is cool because I collect angels), candy (always a nice gift) and last night she gave me some books and gifts for my cats. My sister-in-law is one of those amazing people. She is magical and I adore her. I am so happy she married my brother (of course he is happier ^_^) – and she is raising my niece and nephew – both wonderful kids. Love that woman!
From my son and my ex-husband (my son’s father) – I got a gift card to Half Price Books – good gift guys! I will put this to good use.
I also received homemade chocolates from my other good friend (C2) – she is a wonderful person and great friend to me and she is just incredibly cool and dangerous as well (*laughs* I think that’s an inside joke somehow).
All in all it was a nice holiday. I was not expecting any of these wonderful gifts so thanks ever so much.
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New Year
Well I actually could use to just be by myself. And one of these years that’s what I am going to do, but I really can’t this year. One of my dearest friends is in from NYC – this woman is probably as close to me as a sister. She is tough as nails, she has led such an interesting life, and, for the past 5 years or so she has been dealing with cancer and the aftermath. So I have promised to spend New Year’s Eve with her. We miss each other terribly and it promises to be a good time. I also have a lot of other invites and I should try to spend part of this weekend visiting with old friends.
On a bit of a sour note – one of the men I had been seeing off and on had asked me out for New Year’s Eve. I like this man – he is OK – nothing to write home about – seriously. He is a doctor (therefore a lot of my money-grubbing colleagues think it’s nuts when I don’t act as though he’s some kind of God-send, way out of my current life, turning me from Cinderella into a princess). OK first off this guy is always commenting on the fact that I now wear glasses – I used to not but because of eye surgery on my one eye I am back to glasses. He also makes comments about how nice it would be if I grew my hair long again. Now this man is bald and he has a cleft palate (hair lip). (I am sorry but I am going to be brutal here for a bit – what else is new – geez perhaps I should RESOLVE not to be brutally honest anymore but then I’d not be ME, would I?) – so every time he makes a comment asking me when I am getting contact lenses I don’t retort “Well my dear when are you getting plastic surgery and hair plugs?” Why? Because I don’t care about looks all that much – I care about what’s in their hearts (not their wallets), what’s in their brains, what’s in their souls. I mean yes there needs to be some chemistry but it’s not the *ONLY* thing. Further, after mentioning that I had made plans with this dear friend of mine – he informed me that I needed to ‘rethink those plans’ so *WE* could go dancing and dining – really??? You think so, eh? Well my dear physician, ‘Heal thyself’ – if you don’t like the way I look – here’s a clue – don’t date me. And furthermore I don’t dump my friends for guys ever – never have, never will. Not even when I am married to them.
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Looking forward
I don’t know what the future holds, my crystal ball is broke (or it’s been lying to me). I am just hoping for some peace in my life, some space in my soul, some quality time to get to know someone very dear and near to me, ME. I need to regroup and I have needed that for a while. I need to put aside a lot of things and do some house cleaning. I think for Chinese New Year I will be ready for that. I need to delve into the things I put aside in order to deal with all the havoc in my life. I should have never put them down – but other things needed my attention. I need to get closer to my friends and family this coming year and spend more time with them because they have seen me through a very rough year indeed and I owe them all big time. Perhaps the greatest gift I received (or have ever received), was the gift of their lovingkindness. I am humbled and thankful.
To all of you out there - here's hoping for a bright new year, filled with happiness, joy, good health and all the things that really matter to you. I wish you all the best - be safe!
Colette
Last night I was at a cocktail party given by my brother and sister-in-law. There were some nice people there, including a woman who is from Indonesia – of course everyone cornered her to ask her if her relatives were OK. Thankfully, she said she had not gotten any bad news.
*****************************************************************
A decadent Yule
I was given some really lovely presents from my family/friends/ex this year (yes my ex gave me some gifts).
I received a gorgeous candle from a friend of mine (this was a very expensive candle – and she really shouldn’t have) – it is a Jeff Leatham Candle and the scent is called ‘Voodoo Rose’ it is absolutely exquisite.
My ex gave me 2 DVDs I wanted: Practical Magic and Edward Scissorshands and a book that was on my list “The Venetian’s Wife” by Nick Bantock, and my favourite perfume Anais, Anais – he was very thoughtful and kind in his gift giving.
My sister-in-law, (who had me for our family gift exchange) gave me a beautiful hand-made silk scarf, a paper doll cut out book featuring two angels and angel ‘garb’ down through the ages from early Christianity onwards – it’s a really cool gift. She also got me an angel bell (which is cool because I collect angels), candy (always a nice gift) and last night she gave me some books and gifts for my cats. My sister-in-law is one of those amazing people. She is magical and I adore her. I am so happy she married my brother (of course he is happier ^_^) – and she is raising my niece and nephew – both wonderful kids. Love that woman!
From my son and my ex-husband (my son’s father) – I got a gift card to Half Price Books – good gift guys! I will put this to good use.
I also received homemade chocolates from my other good friend (C2) – she is a wonderful person and great friend to me and she is just incredibly cool and dangerous as well (*laughs* I think that’s an inside joke somehow).
All in all it was a nice holiday. I was not expecting any of these wonderful gifts so thanks ever so much.
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New Year
Well I actually could use to just be by myself. And one of these years that’s what I am going to do, but I really can’t this year. One of my dearest friends is in from NYC – this woman is probably as close to me as a sister. She is tough as nails, she has led such an interesting life, and, for the past 5 years or so she has been dealing with cancer and the aftermath. So I have promised to spend New Year’s Eve with her. We miss each other terribly and it promises to be a good time. I also have a lot of other invites and I should try to spend part of this weekend visiting with old friends.
On a bit of a sour note – one of the men I had been seeing off and on had asked me out for New Year’s Eve. I like this man – he is OK – nothing to write home about – seriously. He is a doctor (therefore a lot of my money-grubbing colleagues think it’s nuts when I don’t act as though he’s some kind of God-send, way out of my current life, turning me from Cinderella into a princess). OK first off this guy is always commenting on the fact that I now wear glasses – I used to not but because of eye surgery on my one eye I am back to glasses. He also makes comments about how nice it would be if I grew my hair long again. Now this man is bald and he has a cleft palate (hair lip). (I am sorry but I am going to be brutal here for a bit – what else is new – geez perhaps I should RESOLVE not to be brutally honest anymore but then I’d not be ME, would I?) – so every time he makes a comment asking me when I am getting contact lenses I don’t retort “Well my dear when are you getting plastic surgery and hair plugs?” Why? Because I don’t care about looks all that much – I care about what’s in their hearts (not their wallets), what’s in their brains, what’s in their souls. I mean yes there needs to be some chemistry but it’s not the *ONLY* thing. Further, after mentioning that I had made plans with this dear friend of mine – he informed me that I needed to ‘rethink those plans’ so *WE* could go dancing and dining – really??? You think so, eh? Well my dear physician, ‘Heal thyself’ – if you don’t like the way I look – here’s a clue – don’t date me. And furthermore I don’t dump my friends for guys ever – never have, never will. Not even when I am married to them.
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Looking forward
I don’t know what the future holds, my crystal ball is broke (or it’s been lying to me). I am just hoping for some peace in my life, some space in my soul, some quality time to get to know someone very dear and near to me, ME. I need to regroup and I have needed that for a while. I need to put aside a lot of things and do some house cleaning. I think for Chinese New Year I will be ready for that. I need to delve into the things I put aside in order to deal with all the havoc in my life. I should have never put them down – but other things needed my attention. I need to get closer to my friends and family this coming year and spend more time with them because they have seen me through a very rough year indeed and I owe them all big time. Perhaps the greatest gift I received (or have ever received), was the gift of their lovingkindness. I am humbled and thankful.
To all of you out there - here's hoping for a bright new year, filled with happiness, joy, good health and all the things that really matter to you. I wish you all the best - be safe!
Colette
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