Recent blog updates
If you will kindly turn your attention to my sidebar (can you see me in my little stewardess uniform?) - you will see I have added a lot more blogs - I have also added a Parental Advisory. (I am not sure why all of a sudden I feel I should warn people that my blog contains explicit material, but I don't want some irate parent screaming at me about content - and frankly you irate parents can go to hell - because if you are blindly letting your children be on the internet, then you have no one but yourselves to blame if your 16-year-old daughter ends up in a hotel room with my soon-to-be ex husband).
That said I also want to make some comments about the 'building of my blog'.
We all know this blog began as a way for me to somehow make sense of what happened in my marriage. As time went on, slowly I began adding other people's blogs - and believe it or not I tried to tell them how much I liked their blogs as well - so in some ways this has become a social experience for me - 'meeting' fellow bloggers and sharing with them. I am always honoured when someone links to me - I have never felt my blog was all that great so I am happy people out there like what I've done.
As I began adding links, I realised that, as with my writing, I am putting my personality out there for the world to see, in some cases my religious and political leanings as well. What you will notice is that I have put links up to my favourite authors (Colette (duh!), Anais Nin, Margaret Atwood - just to name a very few), I have put my friends blogs out there, and then also, as I stumble across other blogs that catch my eye, I have added those. Thus in some ways the addition of the 'Parental Advisory'. I have recently linked to blogs about sex - explicit in nature - to be totally frank - I have linked to blogs that feature call girls/escorts - why - because I am fascinated with that type of life-style. I always have been intrigued by women who are willing to 'sell' their bodies and by men who are willing to pay for sex. This is one of the worlds oldest professions and the ladies I have linked to have what I consider to be, incredible minds, and a lot of wit, humour, charm and I am sure, beauty (otherwise how could they stay in business?).
Now I could go on for hours about the societal ramifications of condoning such behaviour but I won't. What I do want to say and what I truly *do* feel is this: Plain and simple we need to get our heads out of our collective asses when it comes to sex in this country. In Europe and other countries, there is a much healthier attitude towards sex, having a mistress/lover is in some ways a common and acceptable aspect in many marriages. For men AND women.
The porn industry, which has been up until recently been run by men, needs to have the tables turned and women need to take some control (I did recently see a blurb about this on some cable channel - about a women-run production company that was putting out more 'romantic/feminine friendly porn') - I feel even more strongly about women who do enter into this profession. Pimps should be outlawed. Men should not be pimping women. WOMEN should be doing this. It's our bodies, it's our choice and damn it we earn the money for the work. Why should there be a middle man involved unless it is via the way of introduction of new clients to keep the women safe? I don't mean to be man-bashing here but if there is a way to help women to become more self-sufficient and entrepreneurs when it comes to this industry then that's the best possible scenario. And there's a hell of a lot of money to be made too.
As to why men need this kind of sexual satisfaction - only they can answer that. Obviously I feel that men and women view sex and relationships differently. That's pretty evident - and not in the 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' way. Most average house wives are probably not going to perform a strip-tease or buy Fredericks of Hollywood lingerie to 'spice' things up' on a regular basis - I'd be willing to bet a lot of women out there are too harried or too tired to even care by the time 'bed-time' arrives - thus perhaps these 'women of the night' are filling a void, ultimately doing a service and the rest of us need to shut our pie holes and be grateful. I am not judging either way - I probably would have been happier had my husband just had a mere one-night stand with a call-girl vs a 6 month affair with an 18-year old - even though she also prosituted herself. He fell in love with her. I don't know if women doing this fall in love with their clients - I am sure it happens sometimes - I hope if it does it's a happy ending for all parties involved. I do think though that if we took a healthier attitude towards sex and were not quite so uptight that perhaps the battle of the sexes would not be waged so fiercely and for such high stakes.
To my fellow bloggers out there - I salute you and your bravery in putting your life out there and baring your souls for all the world to see. I want to thank you for making the world a little smaller.
As ever,
Colette
That said I also want to make some comments about the 'building of my blog'.
We all know this blog began as a way for me to somehow make sense of what happened in my marriage. As time went on, slowly I began adding other people's blogs - and believe it or not I tried to tell them how much I liked their blogs as well - so in some ways this has become a social experience for me - 'meeting' fellow bloggers and sharing with them. I am always honoured when someone links to me - I have never felt my blog was all that great so I am happy people out there like what I've done.
As I began adding links, I realised that, as with my writing, I am putting my personality out there for the world to see, in some cases my religious and political leanings as well. What you will notice is that I have put links up to my favourite authors (Colette (duh!), Anais Nin, Margaret Atwood - just to name a very few), I have put my friends blogs out there, and then also, as I stumble across other blogs that catch my eye, I have added those. Thus in some ways the addition of the 'Parental Advisory'. I have recently linked to blogs about sex - explicit in nature - to be totally frank - I have linked to blogs that feature call girls/escorts - why - because I am fascinated with that type of life-style. I always have been intrigued by women who are willing to 'sell' their bodies and by men who are willing to pay for sex. This is one of the worlds oldest professions and the ladies I have linked to have what I consider to be, incredible minds, and a lot of wit, humour, charm and I am sure, beauty (otherwise how could they stay in business?).
Now I could go on for hours about the societal ramifications of condoning such behaviour but I won't. What I do want to say and what I truly *do* feel is this: Plain and simple we need to get our heads out of our collective asses when it comes to sex in this country. In Europe and other countries, there is a much healthier attitude towards sex, having a mistress/lover is in some ways a common and acceptable aspect in many marriages. For men AND women.
The porn industry, which has been up until recently been run by men, needs to have the tables turned and women need to take some control (I did recently see a blurb about this on some cable channel - about a women-run production company that was putting out more 'romantic/feminine friendly porn') - I feel even more strongly about women who do enter into this profession. Pimps should be outlawed. Men should not be pimping women. WOMEN should be doing this. It's our bodies, it's our choice and damn it we earn the money for the work. Why should there be a middle man involved unless it is via the way of introduction of new clients to keep the women safe? I don't mean to be man-bashing here but if there is a way to help women to become more self-sufficient and entrepreneurs when it comes to this industry then that's the best possible scenario. And there's a hell of a lot of money to be made too.
As to why men need this kind of sexual satisfaction - only they can answer that. Obviously I feel that men and women view sex and relationships differently. That's pretty evident - and not in the 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' way. Most average house wives are probably not going to perform a strip-tease or buy Fredericks of Hollywood lingerie to 'spice' things up' on a regular basis - I'd be willing to bet a lot of women out there are too harried or too tired to even care by the time 'bed-time' arrives - thus perhaps these 'women of the night' are filling a void, ultimately doing a service and the rest of us need to shut our pie holes and be grateful. I am not judging either way - I probably would have been happier had my husband just had a mere one-night stand with a call-girl vs a 6 month affair with an 18-year old - even though she also prosituted herself. He fell in love with her. I don't know if women doing this fall in love with their clients - I am sure it happens sometimes - I hope if it does it's a happy ending for all parties involved. I do think though that if we took a healthier attitude towards sex and were not quite so uptight that perhaps the battle of the sexes would not be waged so fiercely and for such high stakes.
To my fellow bloggers out there - I salute you and your bravery in putting your life out there and baring your souls for all the world to see. I want to thank you for making the world a little smaller.
As ever,
Colette
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